We all do this, we think the solution must be an elaborate or at least, super comprehensive solution.
But really, life is simple. I’m not saying easy, but simple.
We grow by years and millimeters.
It’s the accumulation factor, as Pamela Waldrop Shaw says.
What we do on any given day either adds to our growth or gradually takes away from it.
It’s the same in eating as it is in exercising, as it is in parenting, and so on.
Here’s one very simple, very do-able, and totally FREE way to teach your little ones (and big too!) how to handle their emotions.
Name the feeling. Yes, that’s it.
When you feel angry, say: “I feel angry.”
“I feel frustrated, I wanted to have dinner done by 6:00 but it’s now 6:15 and I’m still working on it.”
“I feel stressed, I don’t like running late to the doctor.”
Just say it. Say it out loud. Name your feelings.
This is THE key to every emotional health goal and the cornerstone to patience.
If you want more patience, name your feelings.
If you want more calm, name your feelings.
If you want less stress, name your feelings.
You won’t experience overnight success. Your kids won’t suddenly stop freaking out about everything.
But this is absolutely crucial and here’s why: When you start to get upset about anything, the emotional processing part of your brain takes over. But if you name your feeling then you take the reigns out of the emotional area and return the power to your rational part. In other words, you ACTUALLY process the emotion. It really is simple. Try it and over time you will see that you actually begin to calm yourself just by saying what you feel.
This is one simple first step but absolutely crucial. Start this habit now and soon you’ll be able to help your kids better process their emotions too.
You’ve got this mamas!